The importance of self love is often overlooked and even criticized in our society. Often people view the idea of self love in the same category as being selfish, or they view the act of self love as a barrier to time spent loving others. I challenge you to look at self love in a whole new light. Self love is described in the dictionary as regard for one's own well-being and happiness. It’s about caring enough for yourself to meet all of your needs as well as others’ needs, not in place of. As a matter of fact, loving yourself makes it easier for you to love others better. Let's face it - life is not easy these days. With all the demands facing us each day we barely have time to take a deep breath let alone stop and take care of our own needs. And technology - the very thing that was supposed to help save us time only works against us since many of us have either our phones in our hands or a computer at our fingertips constantly. We can busy ourselves doing absolutely nothing and not realize it until hours have passed totally wasted.
So what is the solution? We need to look at our lives and make some positive changes. Change only happens when we realize it’s necessary and we make a decision to do something about it. Doing something about it - that’s self love.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t ever put others before ourselves - as a matter of fact there’s many times we should, but we just shouldn’t lose ourselves in the
process. Many of us give so much to others that we neglect the things that are important in our own lives. I have learned that if I don’t wake up before everyone else in my house and spend an hour and a half in prayer and then exercising, then I will be no good mentally, emotionally, or physically for the day. You would think that I would be more tired waking up so early, but in fact it's the opposite. Spending time with God refreshes me in so many ways when I put Him first. And exercising gives me the energy I need to get me through my day.
So therefore, I have learned to love myself enough to know that this is exactly what I need to be a better form of me in every area of my life. Also we need to reevaluate our time and how it’s spent. Do we say yes to others too often? Do we take on too much and give ourselves and our families too little? These are important questions we need to ask ourselves. Thinking of yourself and loving yourself is not wrong. We are supposed to live abundant and joyful lives. We are supposed to have peace and not feel wrung out emotionally all the time. Life is too short! Your own happiness is just as important as the happiness of others. Furthermore, happiness is known to make us healthier. Learning to remain happy throughout your day can have dramatic positive effects on your health because happiness combats stress, boosts your immune system, protects your heart, reduces pain, and improves your overall mental functioning. That’s a win - win!
I am a Life and Wellness Coach who would love to help you learn to love yourself as you work towards improving your life. Contact me for an appointment today.